Self-Confidence: Fall in love with the journey you’re on

Self-confidence is something everyone strives for. But, don’t feel alone if this is something you struggle with, almost everyone does, some people are just more open about it than others.

I myself used to and still struggle with relying on validation from external factors to control my feelings and happiness. I would become so hyper focused on the comments left on my social media posts, or small comments people made about my appearances. I used to let these comments influence how I dressed, how I posed in photos, and basically, controlled the way I thought about myself. However, recently i’ve done a lot of reflection and came to terms with the fact that you are not able to control what others think and say. But, you are able to control how you react to those factors. You never know the reasons behind why people say things. They could be jealous of you, they could be trying to bring you down to lift themselves up, or they could just be lashing out at you to cope with things going on in their life.

Seeking validation from others is only going to hurt you in the long run. You need to find peace in your own body and be happy with your own thoughts. There’s no one solution to finding this peace, nor is it a set destination. What works for some people, may not work for others.

But, remember that things are always changing, and you are always growing. Be kind to yourself, know that you are made exactly how you are meant to be. Don’t compare yourself to others or think too much on what others say, know you are on your own path. Find joy in your journey and the road to becoming a better version of yourself.